happy couple

from timokosenko

It’s a sad thing to see that divorce rates are on the rising trend now. What has happen to the vows made during solemnization? I knew a couple who seems to be the perfect match. Everything was perfect, no financial issue, husband is a Mr Nice Guy but 3 years later, when I catch up with that friend of mine, I was so shocked to hear that they were divorced. Keeping a passionate relationship and a long lasting marriage requires maintenance on a very regular basis. This is what busy city dwellers like us overlook. Here’s 5 golden rules to get along with your spouse and be happily marriage.

Rule 1 – Do not take your spouse for granted
The fact that your spouse and you are very close to each other does not mean that you could take him for granted. I used to fall into the trap that many ladies had fallen into. Knowing that my husband is always there for me, I throw my tantrums very frequently.

I have read a book, “An Hour to Live, an hour to love” by Richard Carlson and Kristen Carlson. This serves as a wake up call in a way. It is a profoundly moving book as the book teaches the importance of treasuring your love ones and treasure each and everyday as tomorrow might not come.

Rule 2 – Communication
Lack of communication is one of the key source to many marriages that have broken down. Sit down together and solves any problem you have together. Some couples avoid talking about problems so as to avoid conflicts and arguments. But little did they know that as they avoid getting into disagreements, the lack of communication has cause the built up of resentment as well.


Rule 3 – Don’t end the day with unsettled arguments
This is a pact between me and my husband. No matter how unhappy we are with each other, we will talk it out and be at peace with each other before going to bed. When we don’t meet eye to eye at times, we will talk it out even till wee hours at night to get the issue iron out. Despite sacrificing a few hours of sleep, we know that we can have a peaceful night.

Rule 4 – Solve small issues
Highlight and outlined issues when they have not blown up. Ignoring small issues does not make them go away. It only magnify further. Be sensitive and listen to your spouse problems and see how you can resolve them before they have become full-blown.

Rule 5 – It doesn’t matter who say sorry first
This is a new resolution that my husband and I made during the beginning of the year. I know that the pride within us has always stopped us from taking the humble pie. It doesn’t matter who initiates the apology as long as the problems are solved and the 2 of you are happy.

Signing on the dotted line is not a game. It is a contract that the 2 of you have chosen build a life lasting relationship together till death do you apart. This means that you have to overcome any difficulties and tackle them together. Marriage is a bliss but not a guarantee one. You have to work towards it. When in doubt of the relationship, always fall back to the basic. What makes you decide to build your life together in the first place?